My friends set me up on a date with a widowed guy, he has 2 kids which is no problem but his wife passed away less than 2 years ago and Im not sure he's ready to be dating again...he has told me how wonderful his wife was....would I always be made to feel inferior or end up a paranoid mess or am I over-reacting?

Just go out with the guy and see. You never know until you try.

Mmmm...maybe..take note if he *continuously* sings praises about her, if he's still into her... Of course, you'd not want him to speak ill of her instead, some praises is good, that means he knows how and what to treasure in a person. The crux is not overdoing it. How would you know if he is, or if he aint ready yet? Throw yourself, meet up with him in public places, and see how he interacts with you and the people around him. See how he carries himself and his past, and his kids. Evaluate accurately about him, also not forgetting what you'd want - having a guy with 2 kids and with a wonderful wife who had passed away...some issues you've got to wonder is: (1) what will the kids' reaction be? (2) what's your idea of him and his two kids plus his wife who passed away? Not him, but are YOU ready to pick this up? Ask yourself all these questions, and if you can answer them, you should be ready. Good luck! And pray lots! =p

If you date the guy, you HAVE to understand that you will ALWAYS share his heart with his late wife. He will always love her, especially since he probably feels robbed of his time with her. Of course he'll only say good things about her. It's been a couple of years, and I'm sure he thought about dating long and hard before he decided to get back out there again. I bet he's ready. But it's up to you, can you handle that?

If he's constantly talking about his wife.. I would red flag it. Give it a chance though. It's one night and you meet a new person.

Think you're getting a little ahead of yourself personally. Why not go out and see if you have fun or not, before planning a whole life based on what might be.If you constantly look for reasons not to do something you'll have a rubbish life.

You are the one who can answer your question. Are you serious with him or not? If not then you are just wasting your time. But if you still want him besides of everything, then your time is really worth. That question also applies to him.

Your over reacting...its still possible for him to love you and still miss his wife.

Please answer my question?

http://uk.answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AmpT5ponD43MsVo.yQbcGtUgBgx.;_ylv=3?qid =20080630072109AAV1ij8

Hmm? You really never know. Everyone grieves differently and some people are better able to "move on." I say go for it, just go out with him and see how things play out tonight. If he is constantly talking about his widow then, yeah, he isn't ready, but if not just have fun. Whatever you do, just have fun and remember that this does not necessarily have to lead to anything, but a friendship!

Go Have Fun And Have A Nice Dinner.. You Never Know He Maybe The One. Keep A Open Mind And Relax. You Going To Get A Free Dinner