I m in Iraq working since Nov 07, my wife is hosting Karaoke at a bar 2...

[Jed]

...nights a week.? we have a 16 yr old daughter a 13 and 11 yr old boys. wife still hosts Karaoke on Thurs and Sat nights and has the kids stay with friends at night. Should I just let it go since the wife loves the second job of Karaoke? I have 4 months to go here in Iraq. I hate her being in a bar atmosphere. Do I just let it be?

[imphouri]

To be honest, I think you need to let it be. What you are trying to avoid (being in that atmosphere) will be intensified if she CAN'T get out and do something. I know it bothers you, but trust her! I mean, you have an established relationship (kids, etc). and she TELLS you about the Karaoke thing. Let it be. She trusts you - you trust her. It has to be hard on her as well not to have you with her and to be with the kids all the time. She isn't doing anything that she is hiding and if all else in the relationship is good, be glad.

[Nikki]

If I were you I would try to just let it be. My bestie is married to a Marine in Iraq and he freaks everytime we go out and it just causes more tension then there needs to be. If you trust her, then there should be nothing to worry about.

[queen of answers]

Since you have teen age children, I assume youve been married for some time.
If you have a good relationship-- tell her its hard for you being so far away.
You cant stop worrying about her safety, and being around people who are drinking. ( whatever the reason) See if she can calm some of your fears. Maybe she doesnt know the degree of how much this is bothering you.

[Jm e]

You have obviously been together for quite a few years! Don't you realize she must be missing you too and that this job that she enjoys means alot to her? If she was going to cheat on you, she would have done so already and the next four months isn't going to matter. Have a little more faith in her and your relationship. And stay safe and come home in one piece for your family! God bless you and all the troops!